How I Weaned My Toddler Completely from Breastfeeding


how i weaned my toddler completely from breastfeeding

This post is on how I weaned my toddler completely from breastfeeding. Finally!!

Motherhood is a blessing its said ; to hold a baby in arms , to breastfeed her , to keep your flesh and blood close to you , all these are precious moments for us moms.

As a mom, I vouch by breast milk , I was one adamant person when it came to my daughter’s food for the first 6 months. People started pouring in with advises on starting solids by 1 month for baby , but some how deep down in my mind, I wasn’t prepared for it.

How I Weaned My Toddler Completely from Breastfeeding:

I had a good BM supply and wanted my daughter to be exclusively breastfed till 6 months. I continued breastfeeding till Anshika turned 1 year and 3 months.

Then I started my weaning process, had many unsuccessful attempts but now I am glad to say at 1.5 years she is completely weaned off.

My flexible office hours helped me well initially. Anshika was just on BM till 6 months. When she turned 1 , I resumed my regular timings. There started my difficult story.

Difficult Story Before I Weaned My Toddler:

9-10 hours of office work, cooking, cleaning, nursing, home, baby, daycare, grocery shopping a day of 24 hours wasn’t enough for me.

At night Anshika started getting up frequently for night feeds. Like every 2-3 hours.

I was asked to give her heavy food at night. I switched to daal khichdi and boiled veggies for her dinner, but those frequent night feeds never ceased.

As days passed , I grew tired, exhausted.  Sleep deprived and working 24*7 , I started falling sick often, my immunity went down.

I consulted a nutritionist expecting that she would prescribe some healthy food charts for my schedules. Instead she asked me to start weaning my baby from breastfeeding at 11.5 months. I nodded and came back.

My attempts were a mere failure, Anshika just didn’t want to stop !!

I used bitter gourd and neem juice to wean her off, but somehow Anshika felt even those bitter juices sweet and demanded more breast milk 😛

I panicked , even hubby can’t help me here, I have to find a solution I thought.  Frustration, stress, sickness, you name it I had it.

How can I tell my boss that I haven’t had a good night sleep and that I can’t concentrate as I am drowsy? How can I tell my baby that I am too tired to even play with her once I reach home ? How can I not clean my house for days ? All my “hows” remained unanswered until I consulted her pediatrician.

Why Babies Wake Up Frequently for Night Feeds?

My ped asked me about the pattern of night feeds and pointed out that 99% of the night feeds are not to curb hunger, but the security and comfort babies got used to right from their birth.

He suggested cutting out the BM feeds gradually one by one and weaning off completely . He asked me to ignore the night cries and continue the same for the next 7 days until she stops asking for feeds.

Failed Attempts to Wean:

The night began. Anshika woke up at 11.00 PM searching for milk. I slept. She started crying. I ignored!

Her voice grew louder , I ignored!!

Couldn’t ignore the next time;  my neighbors could barge in to my house, I gave in. She had BM and slept, I failed, my techniques failed 🙁

This continued for all nights as we couldn’t see our baby crying at the top of her lungs for milk at midnight.

The next week, we started taking her on our shoulder once she starts crying for feeds. Sometimes she cried, sometimes yelled , again I gave in ; second failed attempt !!

In fact I had nicknamed my daughter as “Dhudhusaurus”, one kind of dinosaurs which preys on ” dhudhu ” (breast milk) 😛 Haha !!

Yes I Weaned My Toddler Completely from Breastfeeding :

After a few weeks, we tried patting her back when she woke up each time. Bravo!! It worked.

We realized that she was seeking our presence each time she woke up . So this gentle pats on her back confirmed our presence even while she is asleep. Our third attempt worked !! YAY !!

Gradually our pats reduced to a single gentle pat when she woke up crying, it worked wonders. A few weeks later, we stopped that too.

Now Anshika sleeps 8-9 hours without waking up even once asking for breast milk. My sleep returned, so did my energy, immunity and focus. I started enjoying my 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep !!

I know there would be many moms who are going through/have gone through this phase of sleepless nights.

Each baby is different, so is their pattern. Keep trying one or the other methods to stop frequent night feeds until you succeed.

Hope this post helped you. Do let me know your thoughts on this. Also share with me which is your tried and tested method of weaning baby from breastfeeding.

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Sangeetha loves balancing her personal and professional life. These days, the major chunk of her time is spent on listening to 'how to beat the Piggy from robloks'; thanks to her 8 year old daughter.


  1. Hi sangeeta,my son is 15month old .I decided to wean my adamant baby and started sleeping in different room with my hubby taking care of my son.initially he cried but later he’s ok but he sleeps well if m not Der wit him.if he sees me he doesn’t sleep eat .he just wants me to feed.he got fever now.and crying for every lil thing.i am sleeping next to him now.but he won’t sleep he continuesly asks for weed .10days he slept with bottle milk but now he wants me to gng mad PL help

  2. Hello, Good day!.
    I would like to ask this concern. If it’s okay to breastfeed the baby even though the mother who just came back from work?

  3. Hi sangeeta….helpful article….my 11 month old baby doesnot eat food…tried different variety but he seems to be least interested…he is not puttin on weight since month… pediatrician advised to stop milk durin day time…is weaning right…suggestion plz

  4. Hi sangeeta helpful post…i am planning to wean my 11 months baby from bf as he says no to food…my pediatrician suggested me to do so….is that right…plz suggest me

  5. hi Sangeetha,
    My son is 16 months old now and still on breastmilk or rather my breasts all night and all day during his 2naps…
    I lie down next to him n try to pat him…He gets up,sits and starts crying.Else he himself tries to pull up my t shirt n get to latch on..
    he soothes down at night when his dad carries him on shoulder.But as soon as he sleeps n is put down on the bed, he is back to square 1…I don’t mind breastfeeding upto 3 times in a day as I’m a stay at home mom..but being a human pacifier all day n night is a please..l

    • Anusha,

      I had been there, done it all 🙂 There is no other way to keep on trying one way or the other. Keep patting, comforting, hugging and consoling your son whenever he searches for breast milk at night. You will definitely be succesful.

  6. Hello Sangeetha,

    I am following this blog regularly and YES I am feeling like I am writing this blog 🙂

    As a working mom, I faced all the phases u faced, in fact every working mom must face.
    Then only we will prove that we are MOMS.

    Well, till 6th months of old, I was at home and worked from home and I resumed in my baby’s 7th month.
    Now my baby is going to complete 2years and recently I used all the techniques to wean my baby. But from past 5 months it did not worked and finally I have succeeded and weaned my baby, she used to woke up for every 2-3 hrs. Then I am bottle feeding her. Now I am free from breastfed.

    You are inspiring all
    Keep on posting like this

  7. hi… my daughter 1.10mnths nd she’s totally on breastfeed.. she nevr eats even a bite of chapati… nw in summers she only lkes water mellon bt dat too at a limit. all she wants evrytme is boo booo… as she’s going she goes hungry criea bt nt eat anythng 2spoons of khichdi chawal dalia is all nd den again bm… im also pissed off..i have appled aloe vera salt bt all failed.. she keeps cryng nd i cnt see lke dis nd feed.. bt serioulsy i want to stop it here… plz do suggest me

  8. Hi sangeetha,

    Please advice if buffalo milk is ok for a 8 month old baby. I have to join office next month and I am worried how will I wean my baby. I plan to keep him at my moms place but they cant make him sleep as he ia used to feeding and sleeping. Please help

  9. Hi Sangeetha

    Very nice post. My question is did you face any difficulty after stopping BF completely like heavy breasts etc?

  10. Dear mam, thank u soo much for this excellent post, i am stressed a lot because of this stopping BM. Thak u soo much 🙂

  11. Awesome post sangeetha,was looking out for this topic,quite sometime,I have to wean my little one who is 1.3years old.wish me luck.

  12. Did you or any of your friends try any other method for weaning the baby.. My baby girl is 15 months old.. She is crazy as soon as she sees me back from office. Am trying to wean.. Hoping to go on well..

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  14. Hi Sangeetha,

    I would like to wean my 2 year old but I wasnt sure how to go about it until I read your comments…..I am going to try your 1st technique and will let you know how that one goes…wish me luck!

  15. Sangeetha,

    I am going through the same phase. My son is 8 months. He is demanding BF all through the night. Now a days , instead of feeding him I put him on my back and pat. He sleeps after sometime.
    He wakes up twice in the night. I hope he gets adjusted to the sleep pattern soon and sleepless nights ends as well.

  16. Hi Sangeetha Menon,
    I been following your articles for a while and i am amused by how can you juggle your life btw work, family, baby and of course this blog. Congrats girl!!!
    and yeah, I would like if you said which breast pump was that which you found to be efficient in order to pump out milk soon. I had a bad experience with one manual breast pump from Pigeon. Maybe a review on it will be more helpful
    I would also like a detailed post on your post-pregnancy diet so it will be useful for my next pregnancy
    Thank you dear. I would highly appreciate if you consider my request

  17. Now my baby is 13 months old. Even i am facing the same problem as you sangeetha menon. I am also very tired and tired only through out the day and night even i am at home.i don’t know how i am going to start the weaning.anyway i should find some method then only i will get some energy atleast to play with her.

    • Hi Sangeetha ,

      Welcome to Bumps n Baby . Weaning is such a difficult phase for moms , Oh my .. Just take your own time and weaning methods .. Am sure you will succeed 🙂 Keep me posted on how it goes .. Tc

  18. i am trying to wean my son. i think this is more tough on the mother than it is for the baby especially when there is no back up at home AND when your baby doesnt accept the bottle at all (dental carries notwithstanding). planning to do in when i go to my mums place. wish me luck!

    • True that .. Its more difficult for a mom … all the best wishes .. do let me know how it went ..the whole process of weaning ..

  19. givingreadingachance on

    I breastfed Aarya till 1.8 yrs, but I am a stay – at – home, so that was not an issue. He would just fight and not gotot sleep with the milk. For his afternoon sleep, I let him be. I would lie down and tell him it was time to sleep, after getting tired he would sleep off (meanwhile I just kept acting as if i was sleeping too). Night time, I switched off the light and patted him to sleep, he would resist- but something about the dark, he seemed to goto sleep. If he wokeup, I would do the same again, but if he was adamant – I kept a bottle of warm water nearby just to passify him – which he did not like but sometimes did drink. Somehow, I weaned him off in 2 weeks time (because we were seeing his teeth starting to deterirate too). Then we had trouble stopping the bottle feed (milk) – trouble switching to sippy cup, then to cuups …the struggles – they never seem to end 🙂

    • Hi Veena , you are right , bottle feeding causes dental carries .. and thanks for writing down your weaning experience ..

  20. Aahh.. this was a much needed post…. will try this as i need to wean my 1.9yr old. thank you so much for this wonderful write up 🙂

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